“Being in a relationship isn’t about the kissing, the dates, or the showing off. It’s about being with someone who makes you happy in a way that no one else can.” –
The key to a long-term relationship: Keep the fights clean and the sex dirty… kidding! (or am I?). Unfortunately, there’s a bit more that comes down to it. Let’s face it, a successful long-term relationship or marriage requires hard work and in many ways, it’s harder to be in a marriage than it is to bounce from one relationship to the next. Below are some tips on how to make the love last.
Be your own person.
It is often a delicate balance between separateness and connectedness – the hard part? Sustaining both, without losing either. It’s important to be in a relationship with yourself first and foremost. Continue to do the things that YOU enjoy. It’s not uncommon when we enter a long-term relationship only to put ourselves second, often behind the other person’s needs and desires. Two people will rarely have the exact same wants and desires out of life (that’s just a fantasy). Express your needs at crucial moments, but in a way that shows respect and also an open mind.
Keep the passion alive.
Being in a long-term relationship has its perks, but sometimes, things can get a little too comfortable. Before you know it, obligatory once-a-week sex, in missionary position, just before you both roll over and go to sleep has become the norm.
Sometimes you’d rather just eat pizza and watch the latest Real Housewives that you’ve been meaning to watch for the past 2 nights (which is totally fine) – but we all know how important sex is in a relationship. It keeps the bond intact, but there are also so many physical and mental benefits from getting it on such as lowering blood pressure, improving sleep and easing anxiety/stress.
If you feel like you need to spice things up why not try morning sex once a week? Add sex toys to the mix – its ok to bring in a little outside help to add to the sexual experience. In saying that, women who reach for lube during the deed often experience a significantly higher level of satisfaction and pleasure with a little extra glide. The more comfortable you are, the hotter the sex will be!
Trust & Honesty – the essentials
As cheesy as it may seem, trust and honesty go hand in hand when it comes to a successful long-term relationship or marriage. Despite everyone having different wants, needs and values – trust and honesty will be a high priority on both of your lists and for good reason. If there is someone that you are committed to, you invest a lot of time and energy into the relationship and you want to know that you can depend on them without a hint of doubt or question. Trust is one of the core ingredients that keeps a relationship alive, but if there is no honesty – the trust can’t be genuine. Treat the other person like they’re your best friend – and why would you want to hurt your best friend?
If all else fails – reflect and “do what you did in the beginning of a relationship and there won’t be an end”.