Relationships are tough work, we all know that, but they don’t have to be as complicated as we make them out to be. Sometimes just stepping back, reassessing and getting down to the basics again can really help add a new level to the love between you and your partner. It’s easy to get swept up in the business of life, with work, kids , family dramas , washing and everything else in between , our relationship can be the last priority. However usually we don’t notice how much slack it has been copping until it has reached a breaking point or become a stalemate and you and your husband have either turned into screaming cats( not literally ) or become silent and polite flatmates .
But the good news is that it can be avoided and even repaired after the damage has been done with these 5 easy steps.
1: Say I love you at least 3 times a day
When was the last time you told your man you loved him? You might say that you wash and iron his shirts and feed his children and that shows how much you love him!! But the thing is with men, they need to be told and on a daily basis. Its like reaffirming that who he is is enough and that he is for filling his role as husband and father. The power of speaking positive things into your relationship is valuable beyond belief; your words in fact have the power to tear down or build up your marriage. A simple ” I love you” in the morning when you first wake up, or a text throughout the day and once again before the going to sleep can really have a big impact on all levels of your relationship. Even if you aren’t feeling “love” for your man, if you have made a choice to stay by him then you should be nurturing that choice by feeding it with the right emotional food.
2: Give him a compliment daily
It’s not about stroking his ego and trying to blow up his head, but rather choosing to praise rather than criticise ( even if he doesn’t deserve it ) why? Because constantly belittling , criticising or nagging your man is eventually going to send him packing and running for the hills. It’s not rocket science, give a man some praise and he will feel more appreciated and validated and want to do nice things back to you! And even if things aren’t perfect , it doesn’t give you an excuse to complain about everything, as the saying goes if you can’t say anything nice than don’t say anything at all.
3: Organise a date night once a week
The point here is that you are making each other a priority and clearing a space in your schedules to spend QUALITY time with one other.It’s not about trying to figure out 101 ways to have fun and spending lots of money on fancy restaurants, but rather just talking to each other, relaxing and listening to what each one has to say. You have to keep connecting , every week .
4: Get intimate again
Intimacy doesn’t just have to mean sex although reconnecting physically is also very important , however building emotionally intimacy is equally achievable and necessary. Talk and listen to each other, say what’s really on your heart , get beyond just the surface level and add some affection to the mix.
5: Look good!
Just because life gets busy , doesn’t mean we should let ourselves go. men are physical beings and therefore, how you look really does play a big part for him. Take that extra time to do your hair, shave your legs, wear nice clothes and look presentable, not only will you feel better within yourself but your man will really appreciate it and pay you more attention.