5 Key Qualities To Look For In A Date


Finding a person to date has now become easier than ever. Thanks to technology and the internet we have more ways than ever to access people to connect to.

So why then is it so hard to find someone who is just right for you?

It’s true when they say that quantity does not equal quality and that’s why we need to learn to identify who is on the same page as us.

More often than not we waste time on the wrong people, simply because we can’t recognize who the right one is. We focus on what we want, rather than what we need.

Or we just haven’t learnt what it is we should look for that point us to a healthy and strong relationship.

So, let me break it down for you.

Here are 5 qualities to look for in the person you are dating:

1: Consistency

The best way to really get to know someone’s character is by seeing how they react and behaviour in different situations.

Do they change under stress? Do they pretend to be someone else when around their peers or friends?

Do they treat you differently depending on where you both are or who you are around? What you need to look for is consistency.

Date someone who is consistent in good character and who treats you well…consistently. Don’t allow their moods or unpredictable behaviour to control your emotions and feelings, find someone that is stable and sure of themselves even throughout change.

2: Good communication skills

Great communication is the glue to relationships. Whilst it isn’t something that is built in a day, it really does help if you date someone who understands the importance of communicating effectively in a relationship.

This doesn’t mean they have to be a caller instead of a texter, but rather they are able to just speak and listen when you need them to.

Encourage your date to talk about their feelings and openly talk about yours. By getting everything off your heart and mind you will really be able to see how they respond and if they are on the same level as you.

3: Honesty

Honesty is what helps to build trust, and trust is fundamental to a relationship. Try to identify if your date is being transparent with you.

This doesn’t mean stalking or interrogating them, but letting them feel safe and accountable in your presence. If you catch them out with lying, then take that as a major red flag!

4: Generosity

This isn’t about money, but rather someone having an overall kind and generous nature. Generosity does not signify weakness FYI.

Having a giving spirit means the person will be forthcoming with positive words, compliments, affection and probably more flexible in nature.

Relationships are about equal give and take, but dating a “giver” not a “taker” will be so much easier and fulfilling.

5:  A level of commitment

This doesn’t mean they have to declare their undying love for you straight away! Having a committed attitude to life in general will show that they are someone who has drive, discipline and a future mindset.

If they have shown that they are committed to dating you then their actions will be focused on making you feel valued and special.

Date someone who really wants to be with you, who doesn’t leave you wondering and understands the responsibility that comes with courting someone.

As seen originally on My Single Connections



  • Queen says:

    I meet a guy on social networks from Abuja why am in Lagos. He wants me to visit but I insist he visits Lagos and he refused. This has been for over five years and finally I decided to visit him but I gave him two conditions that I won’t stay in his house and won’t have sex with him he took him two days before he agreed but after that he doesn’t really pay attention to me sometimes it takes him 2-3days before replying my chat Main while he will be on line. Time for the visit is fast approaching and he is not saying anything about so I decided not to talk about it. Advice

    • If you have been chatting to a guy for 5 years and during that time he can’t even make a trip to see you then that is a major red flag! Men will make an effort for the woman they are really interested in. I would communicate with him that you are a little confused and upset about his lack of communication and effort and that you are considering not coming if he isn’t going to put in equal effort.

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