Are you newly engaged? Or maybe you have just been talking about taking the next step and are waiting for him to pop the question? Whichever it is, it sure is an exciting time. However don’t forget to also look beyond the white dress, champagne showers and cake eating. Marriage is a huge step and here’s a little article we shared for Marriage.com :
It seems to be a common fantasy amongst most women to fall in love and get married. I know myself I used to dream and start my wedding planning before I was even engaged. It’s easy to get swept up in the hype of the day and forget about what it really takes to have a successful and long marriage. As I myself prepare for a season of marriage here are 5 valuable points I have learnt along the way:
1. Marriage is more than just a wedding
It’s easy to romanticise the act of marriage by getting carried away with the glamour and festivities of the wedding day. Let’s face it, the spot light is always on the special day, not the commitment and reality of marriage thereafter. When we decide to take that next step in our relationship, we need to do so with a clear understanding of what is required of both you and your partner long after the ceremony. Ideally you will already have a relationship that reflects the values and qualities of a solid marriage before you even have said the vowels. Because that is just the thing, once that commitment is made, not much changes. A white dress and some champagne does not dissolve underlying and reoccurring problems; those are things that need to be addressed before you take the next step. Whilst I do believe the act of getting married does shift and cement your relationship on a deeper level, we must also remember that a good marriage is made over time, not because of one day.
2. Great relationships take hard work
It’s easy to sit back and compare your relationship to others. To look from the outside in and wish that your own relationship was just as successful or happy as your neighbors. But the truth is great marriages take consistent attention and work daily. It’s not something that happens over night, but rather over the course of time. Both partners need to be willing to put in the effort required and to work together as a team to ensure that their marriage stands the test of time. Because there will be seasons of hardship, there will be pressure and lows, all of that is completely normal. However, when you have two people with the right attitude, and the right amount of grace and love towards one another, you can build an awesome marriage.