It’s not easy when the person we like doesn’t feel the same way. It’s even worse when we have started to develop deeper feelings for them. Whether it’s one date or a serious relationship, being rejected always takes its toll on our heart, confidence and self-esteem. It is so easy to start to doubt who we are and what we have to offer when the people we are being vulnerable to don’t want us. So, to put things into perspective and beat the blues, here are 5 quick tips to help you out:
1: Don’t take it personally
The first thing we do is start to question ourselves. We can become self-critical and start to pick apart our appearance, character and everything we are. Focusing on your faults or lack is never going to get you far. Just because you weren’t someone’s cup of tea, doesn’t mean you aren’t enough. Stop letting someone else’s treatment of you define your worth.
2: Learn to take the good and the bad in your stride
When someone rejects us, it’s always a good time to step back and do some self-reflecting. This isn’t about beating yourself up, but rather taking on board the comments they have said on why they don’t want to date you. That being said, make sure you put into perspective their comments. If they are degrading, negative and nasty as opposed to positive and honest feedback, then you will know which to ignore and which to take on board. Try and cultivate the habit of turning negative situations into positive growth.
3: Take control of your thoughts
What we think on, controls our life.
Just because you were rejected by someone, does not mean you are a failure or not worthy of love.
In a time of rejection, it’s easy to feel depressed or defeated and over think everything. Do yourself a favour and become conscious of where your thoughts are leading you. As soon as you start to put yourself down or dwell on the situation, force yourself to stop and think about something else instead.
4: Write a list of all your good qualities
What better time than to write a list of why you are awesome and worthy of someone who cherishes you for just who you are?! Start a list that states all your great qualities and put it somewhere where you can see it daily to remind yourself of your value.
5: Keep your head up and try again
Take it all in your stride, love isn’t easy and it’s the journey along the way that eventually helps us become the person we need to be to attract the right person for us. Don’t just start dating people out of the need to build up your ego, instead take your time and go where you are celebrated not tolerated.
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