Let’s get real for a minute.
How many articles do you see online with a similar title and it’s filled with drivel like ‘curves’, ‘nice bum’ and ‘dimples’, or phrases to this effect. While some men have the ambition to be with women that have these features, is this the kind of guy you want to be with?
There are so many men out there who believe that beauty is so much more than skin deep, looking for some spark deep inside your personality. However, what kind of qualities are these guys looking for? Let’s find out!
Personality over Appearance
Despite common folklore, the vast majority of men are looking for women with captivating personalities. A study by Dr Gary Lewandoski found that men were interested in 20 different personality traits.
These traits included reliability, easy going, sociable, energetic, trusting and hard-working. Not surprisingly, the study that the more than half the traits were what women looked for in men.
Be an Individual
Nowadays, the dating scene has become a lot more complicated, especially since everybody seems to be using social media as a kind of resume before they meet up. While this may be annoying and ‘leaves no rock unturned’, it’s unavoidable unless you delete your profiles.
“I can get quite fussy when it comes to women” shares Jake Marshall, an editor for Paper Fellows. “If I go on a girl’s social media account, and her feed is overflowing with photos of night’s out and her getting off with strangers, I think this is someone that only boys are interested in, not men.”
Let’s face it, in a world where you can go for a night out, and most guys just want to take you home, or you can sit scrolling mindlessly on apps like Tinder, it’s safe to say that we’re all sick of small talk.
However, it takes two to tango and one of the most important traits guys look for in a woman is the fact that they’re interesting and can hold a conversation.
According to study, 86% of men said they would like to date someone smarter than they are. One way to get around this is to either jump right in and start a hobby or some sort, or use sites like Academadvisor and Academized where you can learn something new every day!
Lindsey Harper, the founder of Big Assignments, continues, “When starting my business, I didn’t have a lot of time for relationships or hobbies which made me feel quite distant from men.
However, once things started to settle, I found that my entire journey had given me so much to talk about and made conversations easy when going on dates.”
Character and Charisma
This is perhaps the most important point on this list. I once heard a guy say, ‘I want a girl who puts as much effort into her appearance as she does being real and genuine with herself’ and this is something that has stuck with me.
If you’ve ever watched a generic chick flick (lol, of course!), you’ll know that the ‘pretty’, ‘gorgeous’ girls that all guys love are actually bitches. It’s all well and good spending hours on yourself before a date, but it can do wonders if you spend hours just being yourself!
Take Your Time Texting
An extremely common pet-hate that men share is the ability to text and use proper spelling. Ask any guy, and they’ll say one of their peeves is having to sit and try to decrypt a text or Facebook message.
Even with the invention of auto-correct, this still seems to be a problem. It might also be due to the fact that correct spelling and taking the time to write proper messages is a sign of intellect.
Have a Sense of Humour!
We all love a good chuckle , and men are the same . You see dating is meant to be fun and something we actually look forward to. Men aren’t just looking for a woman they can get serious with , they are also looking for someone who knows when not to take life too seriously.
Humor and fun can be such saving graces in a relationship , simply because it releases stress and brings a new meaning to the friendship side of a relationship.
That Time of the Month
Just a surprising note to finish on, SAGE Journals published a study back in 2009 where women were wearing t-shirts. All the women were at different stages of the menstrual cycle, and when a group of men were asked to smell the t-shirts, researchers found that they were more attracted to the women who were on their time of the month, than those who weren’t.
I’m not really sure how you can implement that into an opening chat-up line, but science is on your side!
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