Have you ever found yourself lying awake in bed cursing the relationship norms that have bound you to share while your partner snores like a chainsaw or tosses and turns like a moonlighting acrobat?
If so, you’re not alone.
Sleeping together is part of the logical progression of couplehood, but there is no shortage of reasons to consider exploring the option of separate beds to eliminate nighttime strife. While curling up next to someone you love is a great way to feel warm and fuzzy inside, sleeping side by side can give way to an entirely different type of incompatibility.
We surveyed over 1,000 Americans to learn more about how sharing a bed affects their sleep and if sleeping together is the best arrangement for them. Plus, we discovered the main points of contention that drive sleep partners crazy – read on to find out what they are!
The grand majority of Americans prefer to sleep next to their partner: Just 26.3 percent of our respondents said that they did not share a bed with their other half.
While the choice to sleep in the same bed seems logical enough, people’s sleep quality said otherwise. A whopping 67.6 percent of women and 58.5 percent of men reported that the quality of their rest actually worsened when their partner was in bed, compared to just 16.9 percent of women and 18.2 percent of men who had better rest when co-sleeping.
The average American would ideally dedicate just under half of the month to solo sleeping. However, nearly a third of those who wanted the bed to themselves were too nervous to broach the subject with their partner.
So what about snoring , Doona hogging and cold feet?
Women put up with the disruptive snoring much more frequently than men: Due to certain biological factors, males are much more prone to snoring. This bedtime disruption was the leading reason behind our female respondents’ urges to sleep alone, with 43.2 percent having experienced the desire to flee in the face of snoring.
In general, women are also more prone to feeling chilly than men, leading to 38.5 percent of our female respondents citing temperature preferences as a core reason behind wanting to sleep in separate beds.
So what happens after the honeymoon phase?
Ah, the youthful glow of the honeymoon phase… a period at the start of every partnership during which your partner can do no wrong, staring into each other’s eyes is a certified hobby, hand-holding is standard protocol, and being apart feels like some form of modern torture. Oh, and sleeping in the same bed as your new squeeze is one of life’s greatest luxuries – until it’s not!
Only 19.5 percent of people in relationships less than one year felt the urge to sleep in separate beds, jumping sharply to 29.9 percent from years one to three. Respondents’ desires to ditch the co-sleeping setup underwent no significant change until just after year 10, at which point the urge to run for the spare room spiked sharply.
Relationships that were 11 to 20 years long had 46.9 percent of people fed up with sleeping side by side, and a whopping 53.5 percent of 21- to 30-year relationship veterans felt the same.
There are dozens of reasons why sleeping alone could be a beneficial choice for many.
Our respondents’ sleep quality was greatly reduced when their partner was snoozing beside them, and they had no shortage of qualms about their partner’s disruptive bedtime habits.
Snoring, space-hogging, varying body temperatures… no wonder the frequency of couples’ urges to sleep separately skyrocketed as the years went by. However, even with all of this data building a case against couples sleeping together, only a quarter of our respondents currently sleep solo – although that may be due in part to a fear of telling their partner how they really feel about sharing a bed.
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