How Selfish Behaviours Affect Romantic Relationships

Are you a giver or a taker?

There is a lot of work that goes into maintaining a healthy relationship and it’s important to ensure we give more than we take. 

Everything from poor listening skills to procrastinating on a Venmo payment can have detrimental ripple effects for you and your significant other. So what selfish behaviors are leading couples to call it quits?

To explore how selfish behaviors take a toll on relationships, HireAHelper surveyed nearly 1,000  individuals asking them to rate both their own selfish behaviors, those of others and analyzed which ones took a toll on their relationships.

The findings revealed the top actions that are jeopardizing couples’ love connections. 


Being selfish puts you in the dog house — nearly 2 in 5 women have ended a romantic relationship because their partner was selfish, compared to just 28% of men. 


Additionally, the top 3 actions respondents noted to be unacceptable from a significant other are taking your partner for granted (72%) always thinking you’re right (57%) and ignoring their input (47%).

This holiday season be careful with holiday shopping impulsive purchases and overspending are among the top 5 financial disputes that end relationships. The study shows money is really a point of contention for couples,1 in 10 respondents broke up specifically because of a financial dispute. 


Turns out, the #1 financial dispute that ends romantic relationships is not paying your partner back.

Apps are also something to watch out for. Men don’t ignore those Venmo payments because women were 13% more likely to consider it annoying. 

Selfish behaviors took unfortunate tolls on everything from romance to familial relationships and friendships. In each of these scenarios, there were particular habits that people simply wouldn’t tolerate.


The No. 1 most intolerable selfish behavior in a romantic relationship was taking a partner for granted.

Which 72% of respondents detested. Another 57% couldn’t stand the other person always thinking they were right, but only 31% had a problem with the other consistently seeking preferential treatment.

With the popularity and highly inclusive examples of self-care, perhaps seeking preferential treatment isn’t always such a bad thing in romantic relationships.

Nevertheless, it’s important to continually strive to be better when you can. As they say, sometimes the best thing you can do for others is to work on yourself.

And if you need a helping hand in the task, head over to HireAHelper. In a move, they can help you with packing, loading, unloading, and everything in between. Altruism in moving is our specialty.

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