True love stands the test of time.
Finding true love in the 21stcentury seems to be elusive by each passing day.
True love is not devoid of challenges.True love is enviable.True love is priceless.True love is hard work by two love birds during dating. True love is a quest. Let’s take a journey to find true love.
NUGGET 1: LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
Many people look for a romantic partner who will love them and complete them. This is the wrong way of looking at relationships. You should always start with yourself. That you are complete on your own and only need a partner to compliment you.
Show yourself love by:
- Grooming yourself appropriately and taking care of your health
- Write a list of things you love about yourself. (smile,values you possess)
- Improving yourself at every opportunity
- You can actually talk to yourself on the mirror and say all the good things you love to hear. This is self-love.
NUGGET 2: KNOW WHAT YOU WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP
Clearly specify what you want in a relationship. It is easy to get response to this question when you state what you do not want.Take a pen and a notebook and write down what you can refer to as non-negotiable.
The common deal brokers in most relationships are one:
- with no drug and substance abuse
- not married or in several love relationships at once
- exhibiting abusive behaviour
- with serious health issues like STD
NUGGET 3: SPECIFY YOUR NEEDS
This helps you to know what kind of a partner you want and how to break behavioral patterns that maybe featured in previous relationship. Clearly spell out if you are looking for casual fun or a commitment leading to marriage kind of a relationship. This helps you to know when to stop or go on with the relationship.
NUGGET 4: REFINE YOUR LIST OF WHAT YOU WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP
Fine tune the list you made in nugget 2. For instance, if your non-negotiable was one who does not exhibit abusive behavior,you can fine tune it to “one who respects me,”or “one who accommodates different opinion”.
Then, add more qualities you personally admire in the partner you desire to find. For instance, if education is the deal broker for you,write that down. Other issues could be religion, political inclination, family orientation and so forth. Be as genuine and trivial with yourself as you can. It is important to dwell on character attributes and not on immaterial aspects like physical attractiveness and wealth because these can blur yourjudgement.
NUGGET 5: BE THE PERSON YOU ARE LOOKING FOR
It is unfair and unrealistic to want someone to meet your expectations while you do not possess the same qualities. This list helps you to have realistic demands of your partner. For instance, if you want someone who is financially stable, you ought to have some financial goals you are meaningfully working on. This way you will attract your type.
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