If you’ve ever had a roommate…
You know the challenges that come with moving in with a new person, and acclimating to each other’s quirks and habits. There might be an even bigger learning curve if this new roommate is your significant other.
The good news is, this is an exciting milestone for your relationship, and with a few tips it can be smooth and stress-free for both you and your partner.
Communication is a crucial part of any relationship, and it’s especially important when you are going through big lifestyle adjustments. When you move in with you partner for the first time, it’s important to have conversations about the expectations for your new space.
Financially, you need to talk with each other about what you can afford and how you will be paying for your rent, parking and other utilities. It’s important to be honest in order to avoid financial stress.
You’ll want to find a balance between a nice space, and somewhere that allows you to save money and have the funds to enjoy your free time and hobbies.
Make a budget with your partner before you move in so that you can compare all your options, and determine a plan that fits your current income.
You’ll also want to communicate your expectations when it comes to chores and everyday duties around the house. It might be a difficult conversation at first, but it’s important to be honest about sharing responsibilities.
During this process you should also be patient with your significant other as you get used to living in your shared space.
Keep in mind that they may not know that something is bother you, and passive aggression and letting feelings boil over is never the right way to handle a situation.
You might be surprised at how willing your partner is to do the dishes or take out the trash if only you ask.
Talk about Decor
With the excitement of moving into a new space, it’s easy to get lost down pinterest rabbit holes and mountains of catalogues. Before you get too engrossed in online shopping, take inventory of what you already have.
When you move in, try and get by with the furniture and appliances that you already own before spending money on new pieces, then see where the gaps are in your home.
Before you invest in a quality family room furniture set or a matching bedroom set that will last, you’ll want to get acclimated with your space.
After just a couple weeks in your new place, you will begin to visualize the type of furnishings that you want, making it easier to shop those catalogs, and showrooms.
You’ll know what you need and also have an idea of what you want, before rushing to make a large investment in quality furnishings.
Picking out decor is fun, but it’s something that should always be done with your partner even if you think they aren’t interested in interior design.
Always exchange ideas before committing or buying furniture and decor. This will be their home as well as yours, so it’s important that it’s a space where you both feel comfortable.
The best way to ensure your home is cozy for both of you, is to go shopping or browse the web together.
You can also tie in personal touches like family photos and artwork that reminds you of memories and places that mean something to both of you.
Have a Personal Space
Living with your partner and being able to support them in a joint space is a positive step to take in any relationship, but that doesn’t mean that you will not want some time to yourself.
In your joint space, it will be important to have a space that you consider to be your personal area. This space can be as big as a room, or just a corner where you keep your desk.
It’s important to remember that it’s healthy in any relationship to need time to yourself and your partner will as well.
In these moments, give your partner some space and recharge in your area. It will make the moments you spend together more relaxed and enjoyable.