Should we see a marriage counselor before we get married? #AskRenee

A: Marriage is a huge step…

, that doesn’t mean it has to be a huge amount of effort or a struggle throughout. Whilst it will take a consistent amount of hard work, respect and attention, there are so many ways in which you can make it easier for yourselves.

When you think about it, trying to synergise two totally different lives together for a very long time, kinda gives you the impression that it is not going to be a smooth ride along the way.

However marriage counselling is not as scary or as serious as it sounds, and it doesn’t mean you have issues to work out , but rather you are both deciding to prepare yourselves for the next step as best as possible!

Think of it as your personal trainer, if you were about to run a marathon( whereby you already know the basics of how to run ),  you are just engaging in some practical objective advice from a professional to make sure you run it more effectively.

I think it’s a great way to give you both a head start and cover some grounds you may not have covered yet ( or ask some questions you have both been avoiding).

You need to know that you are both on the same page when it comes to values, finances, expectations of one another, children and so forth.

These are all very important aspects that can affect a marriage, so it’s ideal to have addressed them before you are actually married.

In 2011 Relationships Australia did a survey to see what the main reason for relationship breakdowns were and according to statistics the 4 main issues and pressure on couples were : financial stress, communication difficulties, different expectations and values and lack of trust.

Chatting about such issues before you get hitched is a sensible and practical way to prepare yourselves for any of these problems that might arise later on down the track.

Don’t be sacred to try a few counselors before you have found one in which you both feel comfortable with, and try to do all of the amount of sessions required, because this is an investment which will give you a head start in your marriage.

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