Image and article as seen originally on Plenty of Fish
There seems to be a slight stigma attached to dating in your 30’s.
Thanks to Bridget Jones, women who are single in their 30’s are sometimes seen as a failure simply because they haven’t been coupled up. Well it’s time to break that bad rep and start looking at all the positive reasons why dating in your 30’s is actually awesome.
1: YOU BOUNCE BACK QUICKER
No one likes to be rejected but when you have been turned down a few times in your 20’s, you develop thick skin. Dating in your 30’s means you understand that you aren’t everyone’s cup of tea and that’s alright. Ageing not only gives us wisdom , but it also gives us a better perspective on ourselves and the dating scene.
2: YOU KNOW WHAT YOU DON’T WANT
Whilst we may still be working out what we do want in life and relationships, usually by your 30’s you have an idea of what you DON’T want! Past experiences and relationships help us fine tune the type of person we desire as a partner. With age, usually comes clarity, and when we start to look for a partner later on in life, we can have a clearer sense of what expectations and standards we should realistically set.
3: YOU CAN IDENTIFY THE TIME WASTERS
After a few years of practice in your teens and 20’s you can usually start to identify certain character traits in the people you date. By our 30’s most of us have had a couple of toxic relationships or perhaps have even had our hearts broken a few times. The type of men from your past will help you better understand the right sort of man you should attract into your present and future.
4: YOU HAVE MORE CONFIDENCE
Simply because you probably have a clearer sense of who you are, what you want and where you are going. You have been through some turmoil and have come out the other side, which makes you stronger and wiser. Most of the time by this age bracket we have established ourselves in our careers, and friendships and understand that our sense of worth doesn’t come from a man.
5: YOU UNDERSTAND MORE ABOUT YOURSELF AND LOVE
After a few battles of the heart we tend to work out more about ourselves. When we are in our 20’s we think we know it all, but it’s not till later down the line we realise we had no idea. Dating in your 30’s means that you have a better understanding of what real love looks like.
6: YOU HAVE YOUR OWN PURPOSE AND LIFE WITHOUT A MAN
Finding love in your 30’s isn’t about needing a man, but rather wanting one that adds to your life in a positive way. We have learnt that we are responsible for our own happiness and that we can survive and thrive without one. Therefore, we take off the impending pressure on a guy or ourselves and learn to just enjoy the ride.