The real question is; who gets to keep the pet?!
Break ups and the emotional stress they carry is enough to bare let alone having to divide all your accumulated things. With divorce currently sitting at 43% , it’s pretty common to hear or see someone having to go through the separation process.
Breaking up with a live-in partner can be one of the most stressful experiences couples face. Caught somewhere between the emotional and logistical burden, knowing what to do, when to do it, and the potential of cohabitating afterward can be absolutely exhausting.
Want to know what you should expect if you ever decide to pull the plug on a relationship after you’ve moved in? Our friends at Porch surveyed over 1,000 people either living with their partners currently, or who have lived with them at one point, about how they would approach dividing their possessions. We asked them about splitting up everything from the house to their shared bank account and even their pets.
To see what they had to say and how brutal some breakups can get, keep reading.
When you’re in love and living with your significant other, the “what’s yours is mine, and what’s mine is yours” philosophy might be in full effect. You share the bills, a bed, and maybe even a furry companion after all. Unfortunately, that peaceful symbiosis might not last for long after you decide to call it quits.
When asked about splitting some of their most important possessions, a majority of people believed they were entitled to keep those things for themselves. While every situation is different, these particular items might cause the most consternation when it comes to breaking up. Nearly half said they would keep their computer (over 49 percent) and dog (nearly 46 percent), and nearly as many planned to hold on to the engagement ring and cat too.
So what do people actually share or spilt?
When it comes to deciding who gets to keep what, respondents realized some items were better left shared or split regardless of the circumstance.
Apparently we all more prone to share our favourite restaurant rather than custody of our children ( probably the reason why so many kids get affected by divorce , I mean the priorities are way out! )
Nearly 47 percent of people kept the division of property simple: The person who owned a particular item before the relationship (or purchased it during) got to keep it in the end. Of course, that train of thought might not hold up for every item you’re trying to decide on. More than 1 in 3 said they would discuss who gets what, and almost 17 percent used some other method (including a potential mediator).
At least a big part of us want to chat about how things should be divided rather than just taking what we want because we owned it in the first place.
Here is how men and women differ:
hen it comes to dividing up assets at the end of a relationship—men and women had very different ideas about what they really wanted to keep.
People confessed technology was an important consideration in splitting up with their live-in partners, but men were more interested in getting to keep their tech toys than women. More than anything else, over half of men wanted to keep the computer, and nearly 45 percent wanted the TV. While roughly 45 percent of women also attempted to lay claim to the computer after a breakup, only around 1 in 4 held onto the TV. In both cases, either partner might only be taking back the tech they brought with them into the relationship, although women were typically less interested than men in these possessions.
For women, the engagement ring, plants, cats, and dogs were seen as more valuable, and the things they wanted most before parting ways. Debating who gets to keep the ficus or the fig tree might seem trivial on the surface, but research shows indoor plants can help boost mood, enhance concentration, and even promote healing—all valuable traits in the middle of a rough breakup.
And then of course , comes the part where one of you has to move out. So who gets the short straw?
Depending on your living situation or whether you have a lease on your current residency, deciding who should leave or stay isn’t always easy. In most cases, people believed men should be the ones to leave after a breakup. In fact, more than 47 percent of men said they would move out rather than ask their ex to do it.
Break ups are an emotional rollercoaster and at the end of the day a statistic may not relate to you or your situation. But it’s good to know you aren’t alone and that there are other people in the same boat.