Would you move for your love?
Landing that dream job can feel like a home run. For many, though, the next step may involve boxes and packing: relocating.
It can be a stressful and difficult transition, and if you’re in a relationship, you may be left wondering what’s next. Is your partner willing to pack up and embrace the changes as a team, or will you be forced to call it quits?
More and more couples are finding themselves at a crossroads.
So Porch surveyed 700 people about how they’d react to certain moving situations, as well as 300 respondents about the choices they made for their careers and love lives.
The findings revealed some interesting trends for couples moving in the name of love.
Women were 15% more willing than men to move to a new country for a partner’s career, but men were 23% more likely than women to say they cared more about meeting their own career goals than their significant other’s.
Women also tended to be most worried about moving away from their parents, while men were most worried about finding a well-paying job.
Of those who did move for their partner’s new job, things seemed to work out – only 10% regretted doing so. And when one partner opted not to relocate, long distance proved problematic: 59% of those couples called it quits.
Millennials were more likely than any other generation to move to a new country for their significant other’s dream job. To learn which factors couples considered when moving, check out the infographics below.
Why the adaptability for women?
It could be because, despite progress in the workforce gender gap, women continue to stay home more than men. If a woman (and possibly her family) relies on her partner’s income, it may feel like a clear choice to move for their partner’s career.
Men, on the other hand, may be more reluctant to leave their own job, even if their partner was offered an opportunity elsewhere.
However, millennials had the lowest percentage of women who were willing to move for their partner’s career.
This generation of women is pouring into the workforce. Perhaps their decreased willingness to relocate reflects an increased interest in maintaining their own career.
And then what happened?
Fifty-nine percent of people broke up after only one partner moved for a job. That said, there’s no guarantee of staying together even if you do move as a team.
Even after one person accepted a job offer and their significant other moved with them, 31 percent of respondents still ended their relationship.
Nevertheless, only 10 percent of people who moved for their partner’s job regretted it. Even in the face of a breakup, many may resist regretting a major life decision.
However difficult the past may have been, it brought you to where you are today. Ultimately, this is an argument for living without regret, even when mistakes are made.
When couples did move together, though, the biggest issue wasn’t the relationship or job itself—it was missing family and friends.
Romance in moving
To move or not to move? That is the question—well, it may be if your significant other happens to get a job offer out of town.
For most women, the answer was move. And for most men? Move as well, just not as often. However, men were more likely to end their relationship than relocate for their partner’s career. New cities, states, and jobs may just go hand in hand with new relationships.
Possible breakups aside, career opportunities are important enough to discuss openly with your partner. Maybe they will be more open to a new city or country than you think.
And if not, it’s beneficial to have that information before a job opportunity presents itself.
This way, you can make the best possible decision for both your romantic and professional life.
If you do decide to move, equip yourself and your partner with the tools you’ll need to thrive in any location.