How to strengthen trust in the Digital age?
Trust is among the most vital things between any two partners. It takes time and effort to build and can be the easiest to break. For a healthy relationship, trusting your partner is akin to a central theme. If it’s a long-term, wholesome, and heartwarming relationship you’re aiming for, maintaining trust is vital. All other good things in a relationship will follow.
Marriage is an important thing in life. Even moving in together marks a big step in your relationship. Before taking a big leap forward, take out some time to revisit what trust and transparency mean to you. It will pay dividends down the line.
Why is Trust so Important?
Emotional stability is important in a relationship. If you know your partner won’t bail out the moment trouble hits the ceiling, you’re in a better place mentally. This is why trust is so crucial.
Never Settle for Less
It is said that we get the love we think we deserve. Find someone who values you as much as you value them—a mutual attraction. While it may be hard to find the perfect one, the wait is always worth the while. You’ll live a happier life when the person you love loves you back.
But is Love the Only Thing You Need?
Sadly no. Don’t just settle for love only. The sum of a healthy relationship is more than its parts, i.e., love. A major portion of it is trust.
And if you see red flags, call them out. Initial signs of abuse, distrust, and infidelity earlier in the relationship are easy to walk away from. Consider yourself lucky if you’re able to catch any sign while you haven’t fully committed. You may think “I’ll never fall in love again.” You might be wrong. And even if you aren’t, it’s okay. It’s better to live in solitude than to be with the wrong person.
All Roads Lead to One Place: Trust
All this debate on adding transparency and trust to your relationship makes no sense if the person you’re with is no good, to begin with. With that being said, we delve into how NOT to lose your potential soulmate to distrust.
There are many ways you can build and maintain trust in your relationship. It isn’t a one-trick pony to be a loving and trusting partner. It requires conscious effort to build and maintain a relationship. Here’s how you can start:
Do Not Let Insecurity Get to You
A good way to push your partner away is by being compulsive and intimidated by your partner’s company. Your partner is a person of their own and has a personality themselves. They will hang out with their friends, colleagues, and other people. The earlier you learn to share your partner’s time with other people, the better.
He may want to spend his time with his friends and hang out; that doesn’t mean his feelings for you are any less. Think of it as an opportunity: Get to know his friends and also invite them to hang out with your partner. Learn to trust him with his friends. And of course, expect the gesture to be reciprocated.
Spending Quality Time Matters
Yes, quality time matters in a relationship. You and your partner need to understand the importance of quality, one-to-one, meaningful time together. Your partner is the most deserving of your undivided attention. This does not mean just movies or dinner together; it is about you making time and giving the effort to talk and listen to each other. Just the two of you. Trust us, it will yield fruitful results for you down the line.
Statistics on relationships reveal that engaging in cybersex and online flirting are the top most common online cheating behaviors.
Understand Your Partner’s Needs
In the age of dating apps and, people have started saying more. And understanding less. Expressing one’s true self has become synonymous with vulnerability. This makes us oblivious to our partners’ needs as well. Two people in love should no be keeping their feelings to themselves. Empathy is key. Making compromises, altering your schedule, and being there when your partner needs you is part and parcel of a working relationship.
Keep Your Word
There’s nothing more attractive than a partner keeping their commitments. And if you don’t have to hold them to their word every time, even better. Rain checking a movie night, or repeatedly missing out on events you plan together is NOT the way to your partner’s heart. And this may cause resentment down the line.
Respect One Another
This goes without saying: do not belittle your partner. All it takes is seconds to slip downhill, even in long-term relationships. Partners who raise their voice or criticize each other, unnecessarily, lose respect for each other in the long run. Avoid this at all costs!
And above all: stay true to your partner. Nothing kills respect and trust in a relationship more than cheating on your spouse.
This is where technology can help you get back on track.
Enforcing Transparency with Technology
If you’ve ever been cheated in a relationship, it may not be easy to get over it. There will be nagging doubts, and you’re likely to look over your shoulder for a long time. Forgiving your partner may not be as easy or words of assurance may just not be enough. This is where consensual monitoring may come in.
Many couples turn to digital monitoring of their partner’s smartphones to address this issue. This is how an arrangement would work:
Both partners download a monitoring app like XNSPY on their smartphones. This app would, in turn, monitor everything that happens on your phone, which includes calls, texts, images, videos, and everything that happens on IM apps (WhatsApp, Facebook Messenger, Skype & Tinder). Features such as location tracking come bundled as well.
The app gives you the option to allow your partner to decide how much information has to be shared. Whatever your consensus, features can be turned on and off at will. To the outside eye, this may be unwarranted. But at the end of the day, it’s your relationship. You get to decide what works best for you. Here’s how XNSPY can help you.
You should keep in mind that it is a monitoring app, though, and requires both of you to be on the same page. Here’s a list of its features:
- View Call Logs
- View Text Messages
- Watch list Contacts
- Track GPS Location
- Access Instant Messenger Chats
- Read Emails and Monitor Online Activities
- Record Phone Calls and Surroundings
- View Photos, Videos & Calendar Entries
Features such as alerts on specific contacts, specific words, geofencing, and if a SIM card is swapped in a phone, bring a measure of unprecedented transparency if used correctly. No longer does your partner need to give explanations. The extracted data is evidence enough that your partner is not hiding anything from you. XNSPY works for text messages too, which means all communication (either via calls or SMS) is accessible by your partner. Less hassle, and more confidence building for your relationship.
Your relationship might be going through a tough patch but there is absolutely no reason why time and effort cannot transform it into a happy and loving partnership. Honest communication, couples’ therapy, and monitoring applications such as XNSPY can help you manage the threats posed by these behaviors.