Divorce shreds the muscles of our hearts so that they will hardly beat without a struggle.
Divorce can be tough on kids.
However, if you are going through a breakup, there are some strategies you can use to make sure your children are as happy and as healthy as possible. Keep reading to find out what they are.
Discuss the divorce
It’s a hard topic for sure, but your divorce needs to be discussed with your kids.
The reason being that it will have a huge impact on their lives yet they aren’t in control of the situation at all, something that can be very scary indeed.
To that end, sitting down with your kids and talking about what is happening, that it’s not their fault, and the options they have concerning where they live is very important.
Spend your time with them
Talking to your kids about divorce is essential.
However, your actions will also show them what your priorities are. That is why it’s vital that you make time for your kids both emotionally and physically.
Of course, that means always showing up for visits, and important days like birthdays.
It also means opening up the lines of communication so they can talk or message you on a daily basis. You should also encourage them to come to you with problems and questions when they have them.
More than anything else, your kids will want to know that they are still a priority in your life and the best way to do this is to show them!
Provide for them financially
Another way to demonstrate to your kids that they are still a priority in your life is to provide for them financially. That means paying child support, and pitching in for other things when needed.
Of course, to be able to do this you will need to make sure your own financial situation is stable after the divorce.
You can do this by getting all your financial affairs in order during the proceedings, and have your divorce attorney help you divorce with separate bank accounts.
This way, both of you will have financial independence and be able to care for your children the way you want to.
The last thing you want is for your kids and yourself to start worrying about finances, so be sure to make this a priority when deciding to separate.
It’s also a good idea to get started on your ancillary relief claim as soon as possible. Then you can ensure that both parties get what they are due, and can take the best care of the children.
Don’t bad mouth their other parent
Yep, during a breakup, it is only natural to have some pretty strong negative feelings towards your ex! However, it is essential that you don’t let your opinion of your co-parent influence your child’s experience and feelings.
After all, children can feel very unsure and confused when their parents break up.
Kids are often very sensitive and empathetic to the pain of the adults in their lives as well.
Both of these things mean the likelihood they will do things, not because they want to, but because it makes you happy is much greater. Of course, this can create all sorts of problems.
One such issue is resentment later on, while another is the total breakdown of the relationship with their other parent.
With that in mind if you need to complain about your ex make sure you do it to someone other than your child, and out of their earshot as well. Then they will be free to come to their own conclusions and make the choices that are best for them.
Originally posted 2020-12-30 04:12:07.